15 Jul 2015

Why You Must Explore Vulnerability To Succeed At Love

The idea of being vulnerable isn’t one we like to think of. Ask most people what they believe vulnerability is and they’ll associate more negative events than positive ones with the term.

For some reason vulnerability is seen as a weakness. Even the dictionary defines it as “susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm.” If that doesn’t scare the crap out of you and force you to push vulnerability aside, I don’t know what will.

But if we dive deeper into the definition, we can see that being susceptible to emotional harm – read as getting hurt, means that you have to open yourself up to feeling something in the first place. Your ability to feel and be vulnerable plays a vital part in your dating and eventual love life success.

Wait you have to be open to being hurt to succeed at love? Yes you do. And most of us have an issue with vulnerability because it is at the core of shame and fear and our struggle of wanting acceptance. Vulnerability is scary stuff, and I’m here to walk you through the why and how of mastering your vulnerability.

Let’s start off with a couple of key points on why you being vulnerable is important:

Being Vulnerable Means You’re Alive.

While vulnerability is often associated with our fears, insecurities and heartbreaks it is also where joy, belonging and love is born. To experience both sides is to experience being alive.

Our sweetest moments in life wouldn’t be as sweet if we didn’t experience the bitter. There is no shame in feeling pain and sadness. Those emotions are present in our life for a reason. To shut ourselves off from the ability to feel won’t protect us from pain, it will numb us to happiness and therefor close us off to love.

Being Vulnerable Makes You Strong.

Stop believing that vulnerability makes you weak. It is actually the strongest thing you can ever do. It takes a strong person to experience life open to all it has to offer. The weak hide in fear of being hurt, but it takes a strong person to knock down walls built by heartache. There is strength in allowing yourself to love again.

Once you are able to take comfort in knowing that being vulnerable is the only way to experience life you can begin to embrace your vulnerability.

How to Master Your Vulnerability

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