After months of dating you’re officially official. You have a boyfriend and you’re in love. Colors are brighter, food tastes better and love songs were written about you. Congrats! You’ve gotten through the easy part. On paper he’s committed to you right now, but how do you truly know if he’s committed to a future together?
Men and women go into commitment differently. Women feel. Men choose. Before love, women won’t enter a commitment if they feel like it won’t last. If they’ve already fallen in love with this man, then they don’t have much of a choice. They feel like they need to be with them, even if they know it’s now the right thing.
Men can choose to love you right now, knowing that there’s an end date. They can choose to commit to having fun and enter a relationship knowing that there’s an end date. Because it’s a choice, they can choose to change their mind, be it to a longer commitment or to end it.
How do you know if he’s committed to your future? How do you know if he’s chosen you as the one? When a man chooses you as the one, he will take responsibility for you. He will want to take care of you and to support you. The decisions he makes for his career and life will now be centered around that responsibility and your future together.
Is he suddenly more stressed about money, even though his circumstances have not changed? Is he looking to change jobs or career? Is he spending more time working? While most would take these as negative signs, they are actually positive ones. He feels responsible and he is taking action to live up to the expectations he’s created for himself in regards to taking care of you and your future family.
If a man has taken responsibility for you, he is truly committed.