Most of us have experienced a time in our life when we felt lost, confused or stuck. These feelings are normal, but how you deal with them is the difference between feeling lost perpetually or finding your power and living a mentally healthy life.
Our relationships or lack there of are often at the root of these feelings. We get stuck in bad relationships, we get stuck in breakups and we get stuck in a rut because we don’t find the love we desire.
Because it takes two to have a relationship, it’s easy to look outside of ourselves and place the responsibility or blame on others for our feelings.
“He keeps hurting me?”
“Why is he distant?”
“All men suck!”
We forget that we have a say in the matter and that’s when power is lost. The trick to finding your power and living a healthy and happy life is simple. You have to recognize that you have a choice.
You have a choice everyday, and that daily choice is what will make a difference. The problem comes from thinking that making the big choices in life and love are enough to get you out of that lost or stuck place.
“I broke up with him, so why do I still feel stuck?”
“I chose him, so why do I still feel confused?”
“I’m out there dating, so why do I feel so lost?”
Your power comes in your small daily choices. To reclaim your power you must recognize that you have a choice everyday.
You can choose to feel lost. You can choose to feel sad. You can choose to let someone else dictate where your life goes. You can choose to blame others or you can choose to take responsible for your own life.
In your relationships, you have to choose the person you are with everyday. You have to choose to work on your relationship everyday. You have to choose love, not only feel it.
In your breakups it’s about choosing yourself everyday. Choosing not to go back. Choosing to do better. Choosing to love yourself more than you love a person who is not right for you.
In your singlehood it’s about choosing boundaries. Choosing your vision over settling. Choosing the right partner. Choosing not to date the same person over and over again. Choosing to take responsibility for your bad choices.
Choosing daily is hard, but choice will give you freedom. Choice will give you power.
How will you choose to love and live your life today?
If you’re ready to reclaim your power, I can help. Schedule a free 30 minute clarity call with me today to go over your relationships challenges, why you may be feeling stuck and how to choose a different path for you so that you can live a happy and healthy life.