My friend Rachel has a gift. She can spot relationship material as soon as a man walks through the door. I’ve been fascinated with her gift and started to analyze all of the men that I’ve dated for the last 18 months to see if there are some first impression patterns in the men who were ready for a relationship vs the ones who were not.
With Rachel’s help, I’ve compiled a list of things to look for in the man who is relationship material.
Let’s start off with the underlying theme; he’s not too fucking cool. Not too cool to smile. Not too cool to laugh with his buddies or even look silly.
He’s understated. Has his own style, but isn’t trendy. He’s put together, but not too flashy. Wears modest jewelry, if at all.
He has personality, but doesn’t need to be the center of attention.
There’s something about his smile. It’s kind of cheesy, but comforting at the same time. It’s warm.
His friends are much of the same. As a group they may scope the room for each other, but they are just as into the conversation with their friends as they would be with a new lady.
So if you’re looking to settle down, but keep choosing the wrong men, this list is perfect for you. Make sure to look for all of these signs. If he has all but one, he doesn’t fit the pattern.
Next time you find yourself in a bar, party or just about anywhere, look for these signs before you decide to give your phone number or time to just another guy.