The best selling book “Why Men Marry Bitches”, would have you think that men can’t resist a bitch, but a recent study by the Society for Personality and Social Psychology is proving the theory wrong.
Researches conducted 3 studies to determine how much people cared about “responsiveness”. When women were nice, supportive and generally responsive to a man’s needs and goals, the men perceived them as more feminine, and more attractive.
“A female partner’s actual responsiveness led men to perceive her as more feminine, and consequently to feel more sexually aroused. Heightened sexual arousal, in turn, was linked to both increased perception of partner attractiveness and greater desire for a long-term relationship with that partner”
So how can a woman who isn’t as emotionally open or harder to read be more responsive?
- Listen without judging.
- Don’t play down their needs or goals.
- Don’t play hard to get.. emotionally. You don’t have to completely be vulnerable from day one, but share yourself authentically.
- Smile! Cause that’s what nice people do.
Coming from a former grade-A-bitch, I can tell you that there’s definitely something to the research. I’ve learned that you can still have edge and feistiness while being responsive. You don’t have to pick one or the other, just make sure it’s not all sass all the time.
Do you agree with the research?