Your significant other did something you didn’t like or you got into a fight and you’re ready to call it quits. You know you are being emotional and are trying not to make any rash decisions, but if you don’t do something, like right now, you’re going to blow this up.
So you try to talk about it with your partner, but the conversation doesn’t get very far. It’s one of those moments where you just can’t seem to understand each other and you can’t figure out how to solve the issue at hand.
Talking about the problem in that moment isn’t working and ignoring the problem isn’t doing you any good. You are just getting angrier by the minute, and you have to figure out what else you can do to get you out of the war zone.
If you want to think more clearly, here are 4 things you can do to help you clear your mind:
It is well documented that exercising can help you relax and elevate stress. Exercise, promotes production of neurohormones like norepinephrine that are associated with improved cognitive function, elevated mood and learning.
So if you’re fighting with bae and need to get in a better mood and think clearly, working out may be your best bet.
Research shows that we secrete the stress hormone cortisol when surrounded by disarray. With a quick tidy-up, you could reclaim both your surroundings and your serenity.
Decluttering your space can declutter your thoughts so that you can think more clearly when it comes to how you and your significant other should move forward.
When you’re mind is going at a hundred miles per hour, writing your emotions down can help you find clarity.
Begin by writing down your feelings about the situation. Just write freely, not worrying about grammar or punctuation. Get everything out on a piece of paper and begin to write what you think you can do about the problem. How can you resolve it? What can you do next time to keep from getting to this place? How would you have liked your partner to act?
Having everything written down will give you something to reflect on and help you feel like you are doing something about the fight, even if you’re not. It will also give you a logical place to start from when it’s time to talk to your partner about what’s going on.
Talk To Another Person:
Talking about your feelings to a person other than your partner can help you express your emotions more freely without the feeling of being misunderstood.
That person could be a friend who will just listen to you so that you can sort out your feelings and needs so that you can figure out what’s important to you, or you can seek the help of a professional.
There are times where the perspective of a professional who can coach you through the way you communicate and interact with your partner is what you need.
Do one or all of the above to help you get through that miserable can’t get out of your own head time after a fight, but be sure to eventually talk and resolve the issue with your partner once you are thinking more clearly.